One of the fundamental psychological traits that support success in life is a high sense of self-worth or self-esteem. What is self-esteem you may ask? Self-esteem is knowing deep inside that you are a valuable human being, which establishes a healthy sense of self. From this, your thoughts and feelings about yourself, and the decisions and actions you make all come from this place of value inside, creating exceptional results.
On the contrary, a person with low self-esteem lives on an emotional roller coaster ride. Their sense of self is often determined by how well they perform. When they are performing well they are valuable and when they are not, well…it’s easy to see. This is programmed unintentionally by our nearest and dearest when we are growing, being rewarded and praised as children for performing but not appreciated and valued for who we are, just because we exist.
Our self-esteem should be high and consistent because our value as a human being does not change.
When we truly know this then we release a tremendous burden inside that somehow limits our potential and sets us free to be all that we can be. My question to you is how valuable do you feel you are on a scale of 1-10, 10 being absolute? Is it okay for you to make mistakes or do you beat yourself up?
Become your own best friend, give yourself plenty of positive encouragement, accept yourself and any mistakes made, and then see how this relationship with yourself works compared to being your biggest critic.
“Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it.” – M. Scott Peck