People who are highly responsible and have the ability to respond are able to stay calm under pressure. They are the type of people who are not moving into the fight/flight response when the pressure comes on. They’re able to think clearly, respond creatively, communicate effectively, and behave appropriately in accordance with how they need to behave to achieve the result that they want.
This is a real skill. This is something that we can learn, but it takes time, and we have to practice this over time so we can build up our emotional muscles. Athletes and people who are conscious of their health go to the gym every day and start to build up their muscles physically to be stronger and condition themselves. We also need to consider that we need to build up our emotional muscles, our emotional strength, and that conditioning, as well.
“A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as a pleasure. I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, enjoy them, and dominate them.” – Oscar Wilde
The consequence of not mastering our emotions is that nothing’s going to change. Are we at the effect of other people, or are we the ones who are at cause and responsible for how we feel? If we don’t find the answer to this question, we’re going to be very easily pushed around by others our whole life. Other people will determine our feelings, and we’ll be on an emotional roller-coaster ride.
We’ve got to get people back in charge, back in that driver’s seat, and support others and ourselves in mastering our emotions so that we can perform, have a better quality of life and enjoy the journey—because that’s the point. The next moment’s not guaranteed, and the goal is to enjoy our life as much as possible—emotional mastery supports us in doing that.
Who can you share this with today to help them increase the quality of their life and make a difference?
An excerpt from The Evolutionary Leader – 5 steps to dramatically develop people and performance by Timothy Carroll.