Do you own your emotions or do your emotions own you? Today, we continue to look at emotional management and how when not taking responsibility or having the ability to respond affects performance. All behaviour is state (emotions) dependent. If you feel negative, you behave negatively affecting your results. 

Below is an excerpt from The Evolutionary Leader – 5 steps to dramatically develop people and performance, which shares an example of how your emotions can help you or destroy you. For more information on how to learn to manage your emotions read chapter 2, Mastery of Emotions. 

Emotional control is important. Athletes are a great example. If you look at some of the best athletes in the world, they are very good at controlling their emotions.

One example of an emotional meltdown was when Andy Murray played Grigor Dimitrov in the quarterfinals of Wimbledon in 2014, just one year after Murray won the title. He lost in straight sets 6-1, 7-6, 6-2 in just under two hours. Murray was in such a state on the tennis court that he wasn’t even in the game. Dimitrov, on the other hand, was steely and never showed emotion. He never showed any self-criticism toward himself, and he was totally on fire and performing to his best.

“Emotional mastery is central to performing to your best consistently.”

Learning how to control our emotions will give us the best performance. If we don’t, we’re out of control, which will not lead to great performance. Learning to master our emotions and channel them correctly will give us the freedom to be present. This is the place where all good things are created from.

Not controlling our emotions, on the other hand, is not having the ability to take responsibility and to creatively respond to situations and circumstances. We are essentially allowing people to push us around emotionally, which will lead us to being reactive to people, situations, and circumstances, instead of responding creatively.