One of the things I love to do is to work with the future leaders of our planet. Children and young adults now days are living in unprecedented times with overstimulation due to devices, social and social media pressures as well as increasing demands from schools and the system. They need all the help they can get to navigate through life and get off to a good start.
This got me thinking about some tips to share with you that you can pass onto your own children to help them on their way. Here are 7 leadership principles that I have found that have supported me:
1. Trust your gut. When you listen to the voice within you, you will seldom go wrong.
2. Take responsibility for your actions. What you don’t own, will own you.
3. Nurture your relationships. There is not much that we can achieve on our own in this world.
4. Follow your passion. Do what you love and what you are good at, in service to others so your vocation is a vacation.
5. Learn to be super present and grateful. The present is all we have, combined with the ‘attitude of gratitude’ will help you to be fulfilled and happy.
6. Stop caring what others think – What people say about you says more about them than it does about you. Practice non-judgment of others, respond creatively to situations.
7. Practice a Growth mindset – What is the opportunity in this problem. I am constantly growing. I can develop my intelligence, talents and abilities.
The first place that we lead is in our own homes. We lead ourselves and our children to a bright and happy future. Teaching them life-affirming principles is a good way to set them up for success.
The key is to walk the talk and be an example of what is possible.
“You can design and create, and build the most wonderful place in the world. But it takes people to make the dream a reality.” – Walt Disney
Children With A Growth Mindset
To help your children develop a growth mindset, maturing out of a limited fixed mindset is one of the greatest gifts that you can give them for their life. Let’s first discuss what the difference is.
A fixed mindset is one where children believe their intelligence, talents and abilities are fixed. Typical statements include “I am not good at this”. “I am afraid I will make a mistake”. “I am not as smart as my friend”.
A growth mindset is the one that focuses on just that, Growth. The typical language used by children that have a growth mindset is “I am not good at this YET, but I will learn.” “When I make a mistake I will learn from it and get better.” or “I am in charge of how smart I am because I can grow my brain by learning new or hard things.”
Here are 3 concrete things that you can do to help establish a growth mindset with your children.
1. Praise – Praise for effort, progress, hard work, persistence, learning from mistakes and rising to a challenge. Not for talent, being born smart, not making mistakes and fixed abilities. A child with average intelligence that is hungry to grow will outgrow and perform a talented child that is not hungry every time.
2. The Power of “Yet” – You can’t do it yet. You don’t know it yet. If you learn and practice you will. Reframing your Children’s limiting statements with Yet presupposes that they will grow and change. Use this whenever you can until they start to use it themselves.
3. Recognize your own mindset – Be super mindful of your own thinking and the messages that you send with your words and actions. Being a role model is the number one things you can do as a parent to support your children in developing a Growth Mindset.
If not you, then who?
SOURCE: Big Life Journal – Parents Guide to a Growth Mindset.