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Leaving A Legacy

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I had a clear message from two different sources about the same thing. Yes I was listening and paying attention so I got it. One came from the Facebook Live session I was a panelist on called ‘Cultivating a Productive Mindset’ with Alicia Dunams. The other from a movie called ‘Before I Fall.’ I highly recommend all to see this.

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Tao Te Ching: A Practical Leadership Tip

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Timothy’s Thought for Thursday

Be Still

The wise leader speaks rarely and briefly. After all, no other natural outpouring goes on and on. It rains and then it stops. It thunders then it stops.

The leader teaches more through being than through doing. The quality of one’s silence conveys more than long speeches.

Be still. Follow your inner wisdom. In order to know your inner wisdom, you have to be still.

The leader who knows how to be still and deeply feel will usually be effective. But the leader who chatters and boasts and tries to impress the group has no center and carries little weight.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“He who knows, does not speak. He who speaks, does not know.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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Conquering Your Ultimate Fear

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From Timothy’s Desk

In June, I had the fortune of learning to free dive with one of the world’s best Freedivers, William Trubridge. In an email, he told me that he lost his colleague and friend, Natalia Molchonova, the world’s best women freediver in a freak accident.

This article on ‘Conquering your Ultimate Fear’ which we had drafted before learning of Natalia’s death is now even more poignant and we hope you take it to heart and act upon it. None of us are going to get out of this one alive, it was Natalia’s time to go. Like all top freedivers, she had to face her fears, the fear of death included. To dive to the depths she did, she had to master her mind and the internal fear and dialogue that wants to stop her from achieving her goals.

To this end, I dedicate this article to Natalia and the role she played as a women and example to others. She held 41 records in freediving and died at the age of 53. Her example shows that you can achieve anything you want when you master your fears, mind and body. She lived fully and now, may she rest in peace.

Timothy J. Carroll


Some people are so afraid to die that they never begin to live. – Henry Van Dyke

 

At one time or another, we all have dealt with fear. Nobody likes fear because it is a negative and an unpleasant emotion. It is the usual reaction to something which is perceived as being threatening, dangerous or harmful. When we fear something, our quick response is to stop moving forward in order to shield ourselves from negative things that we think might happen. Only a few have developed the courage to face their fears and conquer them. Many have instead allowed fear to control their lives consciously and unconsciously, thus have missed living a full life. Fear will keep us from advancing in life. It prevents us from growing as individuals. It holds us back from fulfilling our aspirations and becoming our best. It hinders us from discovering new and better things and from enjoying life to the fullest.

Conquering Your Ultimate Fear by Timothy J. Carroll

To feel fear is normal. No one is exempted from that feeling. Each one of us has his own fears. And if we are to dig deeper, most of these fears stems from the ultimate fear common to many which is the fear of death. Just the mention of the word already scares you. You avoid it as a topic. You shut off any thought of it. You’re so afraid that you can’t confront it head on. Many have allowed this fear to dominate them and cripple them so they are unable to enjoy life. If you count yourself as one of them, below are ways to help you conquer your ultimate fear:

1. Identify

Reflect on your fear. Identify what exactly about death are you fearful of. Discover the reasons behind the fear. Analyze what thoughts can bring it about. Identify how it impacts you. When you understand your fear you will know how to face it and deal with it more effectively.

2. Accept

We will all depart. Not one is exempted. We all know the fact that death is part of the life cycle. We all will die, some sooner and some later. No man was able and will be able to change that fact, not even the wealthiest, the most powerful leader, the greatest scientist, and the most health-conscious. The greatest achievement so far was just being able to prolong life but not one has stopped death from happening.

When you accept that which is inevitable, you free yourself from anxiety and unnecessary stress. That is already winning 50% of the battle. You start to have peace which puts you in a position ready to embrace the beauty of life and make the most out of it.

3. Be in the present moment

Live fully in the present. Don’t dwell in the past. We cannot undo what has already been done. Stop thinking about the future. Anticipated or not, it will come. Don’t waste the present moment as you only have now to enjoy it. Be conscious of the moment. So you are able to do this, practise breathing deeply and feel your breath as you inhale and exhale. Savor life as you breathe. Be grateful of the present moment, of the air you breathe, and the life you continue to have. Enjoy the moment and just be. When you keep yourself grounded in the present your fear of death will dissipate and so you start living truly.

4. Live meaningfully

Life is best lived when shared with others. Share moments with others. Be conscious of doing something good for others each moment that you live. Give meaning to other people’s lives. Let every moment you share with them leave a positive impact. Life is happier and fulfilling when you know you have blessed others with your life. When you are living a meaningful life, your fear melts away. You are prepared to face death anytime because you know you have lived life fully and unselfishly. Only those who are unsatisfied and unfulfilled will cling to life. They have not enjoyed life in its totality and so are fearful to die.

Decide to conquer your fear of death now. Waste no time. As Joan Rivers would say, “Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God’s gift, that’s why we call it the present.

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A Study Showed that Presence Equals Performance

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Timothy’s Thought for Thursday: 

I was reading in the Miami Herald on the weekend that a recent University of Miami study showed that mindfulness meditation for soldiers in the months leading up to deployment can shield them against mental lapses, loss of attention and a wandering mind. The study expands the body of evidence that one of the best ways to protect soldiers is by training their own minds to be still, present and alert.

Timothy Carroll Presence Equals Performance

The present moment is all you have. The rest are just figments of your mind and don’t exist.

If training to be present helps soldiers to perform then it can help everyone to perform to their best, stay calm, make better decisions, respond to situations creatively etc. The question is how to stay present and not get distracted? Building this mental muscle is the same as building the physical muscle; it requires consistent training. I suggest taking time everyday to just be, to sit in silence with your eyes closed for 20 minutes focusing on your breath. Be there fully with your full attention. Then take this into your day staying present with the people and places you meet along the way and notice the results you get.

Insight: 

“Life is available only in the present moment.” ~ Thich Nhat Hanh

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Fulfillment or Regrets? It’s in Your Hands Today

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During the first week of 2015, we lost our beautiful Jack Russell dog, Floppy. It happened very quickly, in less than 12 hours she was gone. She loved unconditionally, was loyal, trustworthy and full of joy (now I know why “Dog” spelled backwards is “God”). We lost a family member that we valued so much. I didn’t realize how much we valued her until she was gone. The next moment is not guaranteed. We are only one heartbeat away from it all ending. As the poet Mary Oliver wrote…

“Tell me, what is it that you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

Regrets or Fulfillment by Timothy Carroll

We must take the time to contemplate what it is that really matters to us before it is too late. What are you here for? Have you found that yet? Do you spend enough time with the people that matter to you the most or are you caught up in the thick of thin things? Hopefully, years from now, you want to have no regrets when your end is nigh. On that day, what will you wish that you had decided to do with your life today, one this day? I suggest that you take the time to contemplate this question, in a quiet place, and find the answer. Then act on it immediately, take the first step immediately, there’s no more time to waste!

Insight: 

“Life is no brief candle to me. It is a sort of splendor which I have got hold of for the moment, and I want to make it burn as brightly as possible before handling it on to future generations.” – George Bernard Shaw

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What to Do with an Elephant in the Room

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Timothy’s Thought for Thursday

The idiom “elephant in the room” can be viewed in two ways, either as a problem that is ignored or a person that causes a problem. Whichever way it’s taken, it should be addressed properly. Sweeping them under the rug or pretending they do not exist only compounds the problem. Sooner or later, they will surface when it will be too late to correct or control the harm they may cause. The wiser option, to deal with the “elephant,” is to act as soon as it’s detected in order to prevent it from gaining strength.

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The 3R’s to Top Performance

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TIMOTHY’S THOUGHT FOR THURSDAY

The New Year refers to a new start or a reset. For most, it’s a period of rest after a night of celebration. Why not also take the time to review, reflect, and redirect yourself. I call these the 3R’s which I use to constantly develop and improve my performance. Anytime an ending and new beginning occurs you can use the 3R’s to take things to the next level.

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3 Big Questions to Find Your Destiny

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The biggest gap we have to bridge in our lives is from who we are right now to who we are destined to become. That gap of ‘becoming your full self’ is in your hands. It is created every day by the choices that you make and the actions that you take. In other words, your destiny is on your hands and every day you are charged with the power to step into it and develop it. Will you? The seed is planted, it was there at birth, and you are here for a reason. What is it? That reason is for you to discover. Your purpose is calling you and it is your responsibility to find it.

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Fear and How to Conquer It

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Timothy’s Thought for ThursdayWe must beat fear if we are to perform to our best. Some fear is appropriate such as the fear that arises when we feel threatened or in danger. This triggers the fight or flight response in the hypothalamus, causing us to act to preserve our life. Some fears are not appropriate such as the fear of public speaking, or the fear of not performing, which golfers I have counseled used to have when standing on tee 1 preparing to hit out. The acronym for fear is False Evidence Appearing Real, (the other acronym for it I can’t use in this article) which suggests that fear is all in the mind. The key is to ‘not mind,’ stay present, breathe deeply, and then act.

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