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3 Steps to Connect Deeply with Others

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Timothy’s Thought for Thursday

In the unlikeliest of all places, while picking up plans for my house, I had the pleasure of meeting a man of character. These type of men are hard to find nowadays but when you do, they are plain to see. This man had a presence, a gentleness, and depth about him. It was clear that he was a leader of himself and others. He earned my respect instantly and within a few minutes, we were talking the same talk and understood what makes each other tick.

I got to thinking, how did that happen? How can two people meet as complete strangers and in just a few minutes make a connection and understand what really matters to them?

Here is what I discovered:

  1. Be present, polite, and personable upfront.
  2. Be curious, ask questions, listen, find a common interest.
  3. Agree, give compliments, share what is important to you. (In this case, we agreed that happiness comes from being present and not in the coveting of material possessions.)

Are you able to stimulate a conversation with someone that follows the watercourse way? A conversation that runs to the depths of your being and theirs. How will this support you as a person, a leader or a parent? It is time to leave the surface; to the depths we must go! It is there that you will find what you are looking for.

Insight: 

“In the silence we dive deep, to the depths we must go, and return to find all is not as it once was.” ~ Timothy J. Carroll

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Tao Te Ching: What Great Leaders know about True Success

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The Reward

It’s more important to tell the simple, blunt truth than it is to say things that sound good. The group is not a contest of eloquence.

It’s more important to act in behalf of everyone than it is to win arguments. The group is not a debating society.

It’s more important to react wisely to what is happening than it is to be able to explain everything in terms of certain theories. The group is not a final examination for a college course.

The wise leader is not collecting a string of successes. The leader is helping others find their own success. There is plenty to go around. Sharing success with others is very successful. The single principle behind all creation teaches us that true benefit blesses everyone and diminishes no one.

The wise leader knows that the reward for doing the work arises naturally out of the work.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Be content with what you have; rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Where to Find the Resources that You Need to Succeed

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Inner Resources

To know how other people behave takes intelligence, but to know myself takes wisdom.
To manage other people’s life takes strength, but to manage my own life takes true power.

If I am content with what I have, I can live simply and enjoy both prosperity and free time.
If my goals are clear, I can achieve them without fuss.
If I am at peace with myself, I will not spend my life force in conflicts.
If I have learned to let go, I do not need to fear dying.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“At the center of your being, you have the answer; you know who you are, and you know what you want.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Know How Things Happen

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Tao Means How

Tao means how: how things happen, how things work. Tao is the single principle underlying all creation. In other words, Tao is God. Tao cannot be defined, because if applies to everything. You cannot define something in terms of itself. If you can define a principle then it is not Tao.

Tao is a principle. Creation, on the other hand, is a process. That is all there is: principle and process, how and what. All creation unfolds according to Tao. There is no other way.

Tao cannot be defined, but Tao can be known. The method is meditation or being aware of what is happening. By being aware of what is happening, I begin to sense how it is happening. I begin to sense Tao. To become aware of what is happening, I must pay attention to this present moment with an open mind. I must set aside my personal prejudices or bias. Prejudiced people see only what fits those prejudices.

The method of meditation works, because principle and process are inseparable. All process wraps the underlying principle. This means that I can know Tao. I can know God. By knowing Tao, I know how things happen.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Accepting the World, you embrace Tao. Bearing and nurturing, creating but not owning, giving without demanding, controlling without authority, this is love.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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Tao Te Ching: What’s Soft is Strong

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Soft and Strong

Water is fluid, soft and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. The wise leader knows that yielding overcomes resistance, and gentleness melts rigid defences.

The leader does not fight the force of the group’s energy, but flows and yields and absorbs and let’s go. A leader must endure a great deal of abuse. If the leader were not like water, the leader would break. The ability to be soft makes the leader a leader.

This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Nothing is softer or more flexible than water, yet nothing can resist it.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Performance, Polarities, Paradoxes, & Puzzles

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Polarities, Paradoxes, and Puzzles

All behaviours contain their opposites:

  • Borrowing to be wealthy creates pay back and poverty.
  • A show of strength suggests insecurity.
  • What goes up must come down.
  • If you want to prosper, be generous.

Also:

  • The feminine outlasts the masculine.
  • The feminine allows, the masculine causes.
  • The feminine surrenders, then encompasses and wins.

And:

  • Water wears away the rock.
  • Spirit overcomes force.
  • The weak will undo the mighty.

Learn to see things backwards, inside out, and upside down.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“The flame that burns twice as bright burns half as long.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Effective Leaders Do Less

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Doing Little

It puzzles people at first, to see how little the able leader actually does, and yet how much gets done. But the leader knows that is how things work. After all, Tao does nothing at all, yet everything gets done. When the leader gets too busy, the time has come to return to selfless silence.

Selflessness gives one centre.
Centre creates order.
When there is order, there is little to do.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Do the difficult things while they are easy and do the great things while they are small. A journey of a thousand miles must begin with a single step.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Reflection & Performance

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Time for Reflection

Endless drama in a group clouds consciousness. Too much noise overwhelms the senses. Continual input obscures genuine insight. Do not substitute sensationalism for learning.

Allow regular time for silent reflection. Turn inward and digest what has happened. Let the senses rest and grow still. Teach people to let go of their superficial mental chatter and obsessions. Teach people to pay attention to the whole body’s reaction to a situation.

When group members have time to reflect, they can see more clearly what is essential in themselves and others.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Silence is a source of Great Strength.” ~ Lao Tzu

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Tao Te Ching: Belief and Being Oneself

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Being Oneself

The wise leader doesn’t make a show of holiness or pass out grades for good performance. That would create a climate of success and failure, then competition and jealousy follow. Likewise, emphasising material success: for those who have a lot become greedy, and those who have become little thieves.

When you reinforce appearances, people scramble to please. The wise leader pays respectful attention to all behaviour. Thus, the group becomes open to more and more possibilities of behaviour. People learn a great deal when they are open to everything and not just figuring out what pleases the leader.

The wise leader shows that style is no substitute for substance, that knowing certain facts is not more powerful than simple wisdom, that creating an impression is not more potent than acting from one’s center. The students learn that effective action arises out of silence and a clear sense of being.

In this, they find a source of peace. They discover that the person who is down-to-earth can do what needs doing more effectively than the person who is merely busy.

Source: The Tao of Leadership – Lao Tzu’s Tao Te Ching Adapted for a New Age by John Heider

Insight: 

“Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.” ~ Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

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